How-to-Say Guide: Love & Relationships
Love & Relationships
The words are the hard part. Here are three you can borrow.
-
Asking a partner to use external tools without shaming them
How to say it "I know you care about this, but executive memory can be unpredictable. Let's set a shared calendar alert on both our phones right now so we can rely on a system rather than your memory."
-
Re-establishing equal partnership after caregiving fatigue
How to say it "I love you and support your health, but taking on all these tasks alone has changed our connection. Let's look at external support options so I can focus on being your partner again."
-
Reconnecting after a health or bipolar episode stabilises
How to say it "Now that things are steady, I'd love to reconnect as partners. Caretaking took over for a while, so let's gently figure out what intimacy and closeness look like for us in this balanced season."